Couple counselling. Feel too irritated!

I m in a relationship since 10yrs now.My partner gets angry n abusive and has hit me also several times and after that starts to love me again. He says that I provoke him to do that. The situation after 10yrs is this that I feel irritated of him and now dont feel happy with him which makes him sad and he often ends up saying that I am showing him attitude now. This is causing other sort of fights now though he has promised that he will not hit me. He has no regret of hitting me as upon cronfronting him he always says that I am the reason for his abusive language. I asked him to go to psychiatrist and he said you find & you also consult as according to him I also have a problem. Now situation is that I literally feel irritated of him as opposed to earlier when after our fight I used to not talk for 1 or 2 hours and then used to become normal. When I say oir fight I mean I never abused or said ill words to him. Are thr any chances of him improving. I love him but now I feel too irritated