Hi dear
Changing opinions and mind sets take a lot of time. Sometimes he expects something's from you and something's you would be expecting. It's important to recognize them, and then see how realistic they are.
Secondly every marriage needs adjustments, to what level both of you are giving it and is there any acknowledgement from both the sides.
I feel letting each other know what is important for you both is necessary but at the same time giving in little extra out of your will is equally valuable.
Next Steps
meet a psychologist,a couple therapist.