First thing your mother requires is psychiatric consultation. Please have her examined. A few medicines may be of great help.

Consult Psychologist for managing your problem.

If you look from ur Mom's point of view,  she feels neglected red. She is actually  seeking attention and love and care from you all. All these years it's suffocating and needs counselling,  which would really beneficial to her and in turn for you all.

Hello..Although your query is incomplete, it looks like most probably your mother is going through depression. A lot of women around their menopause have mood swings and depressive symptoms. Since it's affecting her as well as your entire family i guess, it is important to get a psychiatric evaluation. Be patient with her while talking. I know it may be difficult but do not blame her or react to whatever she says. She is going through a tough phase. Small dose of medications will help. Get thyroid and Vitamin B12 and Vitamin D levels.

Hi...... Bring down your general stress levels with exercise and relaxation. Running, walking, swimming, yoga and meditation are just a few activities that can reduce stress. Exercise as part of your daily life is a good way to get rid of irritation and anger.... A typical anger management programme may involve one-to-one counselling and working in a small group.... Consult Psychiatrist for further advice.....