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In my internship at my workplace, I went through three months without calling a colleague by his name or calling him sir. There is two options to call this colleague; either by his name or brother or sir. But I didnt choose any lf these for three months. Isnt it weird that I was so stuborn without making a decision till I left the company after three months.
Lets take for example his name is Ronaldo. He is couple of years older than me. I am worried if I call him sir I would become his subordinate and they wont hear me properly to what I have to say. If I call him anna(brother), then also there is that subbordination. He is elder and senior to me at the workplace so its justifiable to call him brother or sir. I think what my problem is I want to call him with something permanent. Lets say if I call him sir I want to call him sir for the rest of my life. I dont want to call him sir infront of him and by his name behind him. whats wrong with me.
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Hi, it looks like you have great respect for your colleague. You want to address him with respect. You are confused about what to call him. You can consult a psychologist who will help address thought patterns that is causing you to think in a particular way. Counseling sessions will help you.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You are experiencing a typical workplace dilemma. Since you have recently shifted from being a student to an intern and later an employee, you are experiencing a shift in your perceived social expectations with respect to your colleague and your role.
There is nothing wrong with you or your dilemma, it's just that you are overthinking about it as you don't want to offend either side.
I suggest you speak to this elder colleague of yours about your concerns and ask him if he is ok with you calling him by his name? You can share with him that you respect him but also want to keep it professional in a workplace setting.
I suppose if he himself is not a fresher and has spent more than 5-7 years working, he won't mind you calling him by his name or anything as long as you are performing and behaving appropriately as per your role.
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Seek professional help (counselling/psychotherapy) if you need further assistance
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Ms. Hema Sampath
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18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Overthinking and some kind of I am Right is what I can see in your description..
I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy to get some clarity and understanding about yourself..
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