Hello sir.
Since your area of concern is the upper wisdom tooth, and as it is the last tooth in the upper area, it is barely visible in the above picture.
From the points that you have mentioned, it is giving you a lot of problem and its almost damaged and keeps irritating you; it will be advisable to get it removed for the relief of your problems.
Next Steps
before removal, a thorough examination of the area of concern and the involved tooth is important, to make a correct treatment plan. so get it examined clinically first.