Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help here. Anger, irritation, tension are reflection of stress. Stress is not just an emotional disturbance, but it also equally affects bodily functioning and causes migraine, blood pressure, acidity, palpitations etc.Solutions for your problem needs  to be holistic in handling stress management and also understanding your bodily condition that can influence anger. In ayurveda term, such symptoms are caused by excess heat or fire energy or Pitta. There are home remedies, few lifestyle changes or self therapies that can provide relief and solutions in long-term. In parallel, you also need to work on the relationship management with your wife. Suggest you for a counseling session to assess your suitation and explore suitable solutions. .

The stress or Irritation could be due to various reasons...personal or professional... You can overcome this issue by Consulting a psychologist in your city personally.

We can talk on this issue and it can be easily resolved. Im available through practo chat. Take care Regards