What you are describing sounds less like a problem with your sexuality and more like a sudden trigger-driven cycle of sexual urges and compulsive behaviour. Sexual thoughts themselves are normal, and being bisexual does not make these thoughts abnormal. The concern is that the thoughts have become difficult to control and you are masturbating 4â5 times daily despite wanting to stop. Compulsive sexual behaviour can involve repeated urges, pornography/content use and masturbation that feel difficult to control and cause distress.
The Telegram channel appears to have become a strong trigger. In particular, content depicting people being exploited or intimate material shared without consent is not healthy content to continue consuming; it can reinforce the arousalâurgeâmasturbation cycle. You do not need to feel ashamed about having been aroused by something you encounteredâthe important thing is what you choose to do from here.
Next Steps
The most important first step is to leave/block the Telegram channel and remove access to the videos rather than trying to repeatedly fight the thoughts after they appear. Make your phone less accessible during your vulnerable times, use content-blocking tools, and avoid searching for similar material. When an urge appears, don't argue with the thought or try desperately to force it away. Notice itâ"I'm having a sexual urge right now"âdelay acting on it for 10â15 minutes, get up, change your environment and engage in another activity. CBT-based approaches, mindfulness and acceptance-based therapy can help people learn to manage intrusive thoughts and compulsive sexual urges. If this continues to feel out of control, particularly if it is interfering with sleep, work or relationships, consult us for better treatment and personalised guidance, you may connect with us at 9 3 1 5 6 6 1 5 6 5.
Health Tips
For the next 2â3 weeks, focus on breaking the trigger rather than achieving immediate âzero masturbation.â Keep your phone away from the bed, exercise daily, maintain a regular sleep schedule and stay occupied during the times when urges are strongest. If you masturbate, don't respond with guilt or shameâthe goal is progressively regaining control, not punishing yourself. Intrusive sexual thoughts can become stronger when you desperately try to suppress them; learning to notice them without automatically acting on them is generally more useful. If the sexual thoughts are accompanied by very little sleep, unusually high energy, impulsive/risky behaviour or a sudden dramatic change in mood, seek a psychiatric assessment, because those features can indicate something beyond a simple habit pattern. Thank you