Thank you for sharing such a personal and difficult experience. The pain during intercourse (dyspareunia) and lack of sexual desire you're experiencing can be distressing, but you're not alone, and help is available. Here are some steps you can consider: 1. Consult a Gynecologist: A pelvic examination is important to rule out any physical causes like infections, scarring, hormonal changes (especially after childbirth), or pelvic floor muscle spasm (vaginismus). 2. Pelvic Floor Physiotherapy: A physiotherapist specialized in women's health can help with Kiegel's exercises to reduce pain and improve muscle relaxation around the vaginal area.

First consult a Gynecologist for assessment of your reproductive organ, after that assessment gynecologist will refer you to the psychiatrist (if needed), take steps for your treatment, it will be better gradually

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Hi Thank you for sharing something so personal—it takes a lot of courage to open up about such intimate pain. What you’re describing sounds like a combination of vaginismus (when vaginal muscles tighten up painfully during penetration) and possibly low sexual desire, which can both be emotionally and physically overwhelming. It’s important to know: this is not your fault, and you’re not alone. Many women go through something similar, especially after painful first-time experiences or childbirth-related changes. Emotional pressure, fear of pain, or past discomfort can create a mental and physical block, making your body resist intimacy even when you want to feel close. This can be treated—and you deserve to enjoy your own body and relationship without pain or guilt. The best next step is to consult a gynecologist who understands sexual pain disorders to rule out any physical issues like dryness, injury, or hormonal changes post-childbirth. Alongside that, meeting a sex therapist or psychologist can help you work through fear, body tension, and gradually build back confidence, comfort, and desire at your pace. There’s no shame in needing help—this is about healing, not fixing. Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

It's difficult to come to any conclusion without thorough evaluation. You should consult gynaecologist first to rule out any post labour structural problems. It's very important for you to get fully aroused during sex so that vaginal secretions can happen. Dry vagina can lead to painful coitus. You can always use anaesthetised lubricants or lignocaine gel while having intercourse (most gay men use it for anal sex). You can use vaginal dilators to gradually dilate it. Sometimes past painful experience or fear of sex can lead to contraction of pelvic floor as well as thigh muscles which is called as Vaginismus. For that you have to consult psychiatrist and resolve your fear about sex. Lastly, sex is not all about penetration. You can always enjoy the foreplay, cuddling, kissing without thinking about penetration. It should be more sensual than sexual. Make sure that all 5 senses are aroused.

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Hey there, I think a detailed medical and psychiatric history is always needed for every case.In addition,a detailed mental status assessment is also needed to make a diagnosis and also for a proper management of the case.

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Suggestive of vaginismus and female hypoactive sexual desire A thorough sexual history is required for detail evaluation and management