Hello! Thank you for reaching out.
I'm really sorry to hear this. I can only imagine how difficult and heart breaking it might feel for you right now. Itâs very difficult to be vulnerable with people and be hurt in return.
It is absolutely not okay that you had to face something like this. However, I would like to emphasise it was more about your partnerâs decision than anything to do with you. People have their own reasons and circumstances for taking decisions, which sometimes have very little to do with oneself. It is not easy to accept this, nor does it lessen the grief, but I understand that investing so much in someone and not being respected in return can feel devastating. However, I wish to tell you that it unfortunately is the otherâs decision. You might have done nothing and yet this could have happened.
This is one aspect of your life, and while it is a very important one- please remember that dying would not do justice to the person you are and the multiple people you are loved by. While it feels terrible, and it will continue for sometime because of all the love you held for them- it will end someday. This time too shall pass.
Please know that you deserve to take time to yourself for processing this grief. It is absolutely okay to take time for yourself and your emotions before talking about it with someone else. Your friends will be compassionate with you- maybe you could politely inform them that you need some time by yourself and will talk to them when you feel better.
It's also absolutely okay to feel low and not work for a while. While there might not be a reason you consider valid enough to feel this way, I assure you that in these times- there is a lot of stress around us which can make us feel unmotivated to do anything. Work can come into place when you feel mentally and physically Ill.
If you feel like getting too much for you to deal with alone- I would recommend you to please reach out to professional mental health practitioners from organisations or independent set ups for the same. I assure you that you would receive the care and safe place to grieve and work through these times with gentle support. They would be able to support you through these feelings much better.
Credits: Parul Pushkarna, Intern at Heart It Out
Answered2021-05-29 15:12:39
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