Any relationship issues has to be two ways . Rather than trying to change your spouse, see first what are the areas that can be worked out from your side - starting from your thoughts emotions & behaviour. Can empathise the situation you are in . Focus on your well being which will directly reflect on the family well-being.  Its workable

Any kind of abuse should not be tolerated. The relationship you are in is abusive and cannot be healthy. You need to ask yourself why you are ready to compromise your self esteem and are dependent on a pathological relationship. This shows a lack of respect for yourself.  See a psychologist alone and if possible see a psychologist together as well.

What are the situations when he tries to abuses you. Is it repetitive or just get irritated for everything. Probably,  he might be undergoing so. E tensions or issues.

The fact that you want to be with him means there is still some value in the relationship. Let me tell you one thing. No marital relationship works by default. You must make it work. It  could be your husband is suffering from mental issues that makes him behave this way. Keep this in consideration and do what needs to be done before thinking of ending the relationship .

Did you have a loving and close relationship with your parents when u were growing up? Do you have healthy, committed friendships? Self esteem issues frequently stem from childhood insecurities. U appear to be excessively dependant to the extent that you are ready to compromise your self worth. You may need to explore some very deep rooted issues regarding your formative years with a competent psychologist.