I hear that you are experiencing a turbulent marriage. As you said, that the ups are very less compared to the downs. And it seems like the costs are greater than the benefits. Sometimes when relationships don't meet our emotional needs and they become untenable, yet patterns of our attachment system can shape how we tolerate, stay or leave relationships that are not meeting our needs. It helps to explore these patterns and address them to build a greater sense of choice over compulsive attachment. Talking to a therapist who is attachment trauma informed can significantly improve your sense of self, relational patterns and healthy communication of needs.

Consultation with me is advised

Hi, It sounds like you're going through a difficult and emotional journey, trying to balance your boundaries, feelings, and the complexities of your marriage. It's natural to feel hurt when your partner seems distant or prefers others over you, especially given the history of challenges and your efforts to establish boundaries. Remember, healing and change take time, and it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being. Consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist who can help you process these feelings, strengthen your boundaries, and work towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship—whether that means rebuilding your marriage or gaining clarity on what’s best for you. It’s okay to prioritize your happiness and not be a people pleaser anymore.

You have shown a lot of strength in trying to rebuild your relationship while protecting your peace. Setting boundaries takes time, so it’s okay if you are not perfect at it yet. Your feelings are valid, especially when you feel emotionally unsupported. Try to focus on clear communication, self-respect, and your emotional well-being. You do not have to become a people pleaser again to keep a relationship working. Small, healthy steps matter.

Kindly reach out for therapy sessions

You are undergoing a lot of psychological changes for sure. It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated and can affect your personal and social life. It needs to be addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery. It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects if required. You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.

You have been emotionally overwhelmed for a long time, and it’s understandable that maintaining boundaries still feels difficult. Wanting respect, emotional support, and balance in a relationship does not make you a people pleaser.

Hi, how are you? Thanks for reaching out. What you’re feeling makes sense. Even after coming back with boundaries and fewer expectations, somewhere you still want to feel emotionally chosen and respected, especially when it comes to your family. That doesn’t make you a people pleaser. It just means the hurt is still there. Boundaries are not about becoming emotionless. They are about not losing yourself again while handling the relationship. The goal is not “I should never feel hurt,” but “I can feel hurt without abandoning myself.” Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

Hello, Thank you for sharing your concern here. I appreciate the resilience you have shown with the six years struggle in the ups and downs of your marriage. You have made your efforts and they have paid off to some extent. However, there are some areas where you still seek fulfillment and you can certainly progress in that direction. Counseling sessions can help you to draw the thin line between your relation as a couple and other family dynamics. When you tread the acceptance and expectation in a relationship in a balanced manner, it can be mutually agreeable and peaceful. This can make both of you take ownership and operate as a team when faced with any challenges. You can consult for further professional guidance. I wish you progressive healing and holistic wellness. Happy Healthy Living!

Kindly connect with psychologist

A part of you wants to make this relationship work but another part feels emotionally tired from constantly adjusting. Try not to ignore that exhaustion. Healthy relationships may require compromise but they should not require you to continuously silence your own emotional needs