I understand your distressful situation. More clarity is needed regarding your problem to decide on the severity of your condition. It may be a natural arousal reaction, however if it is intrusive and you are too distressed, guilty and anxious by it then those thoughts could even be obsessive. Don't worry it is not your fault, it is the hormonal and chemical fluctuations in your brain which is taking a toll on your mental health. It is easily manageable with appropriate treatment, so that dysfunction due to the same can be reduced and your quality of life will improve. Some counselling sessions and if needed medical help might be useful for the both of you. My clinic is at OMR chennai. I would also be more than happy to help you with that if you are looking for online assistance. Discussions will be held confidential. You can directly consult with me through Practo as needed. Online chat consultation is also available.

It is very natural to have the feelings that you do. Homo sapien brains were never designed to be monogamous. Therefore sexual arousal in the absence of your mate is very natural. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, she should work on her insecurities and accept the fact that arousal does not mean that you’re going to impulsively act on it. You’re not an animal to do that. If she doesn’t work on her insecurity, your relationship will have problems in the future.