Hello. Looks like there's a huge communication gap between you two and definitely too much IP issues. Also, there's lot of confidence issues in you as well.
Marital counseling and therapy will be required for you two.
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in this case,both of you will be needing therapy.not just you or your husband,but both of you.
consult a psychiatrist/therapist for the same.
detailed history has to be taken from both the sides.
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you can consult me regarding the same