Hello There is always a cause behind anything. You should take your husband to a counsellor. It's very hard to llive if you don't have mental peace especially in your marriage. I can understand through what you are going and would advice you to get your husband treated as soon as possible instead of taking pain anymore. There are many good marriage counsellors also who can help you both and settle the issues You can also take your husband to a homoeopath as a homoeopath would take history of your husband from childhood and would evaluate his case so that he can choose the medicine similar to him and which could help him. You would see the positive changes soon

Dear madam, I am sorry to hear this, and I can understand how it will be that you r undergoing. But instead of worrying about things what he is not having like immaturity, low tolerance,poor balance. Find a therapist who can work on the positive side of ur husband. In indian scenario the family supports the male (no matter how he is r what he is) . The worst part is they want the man to be corrected by the women who came into his life as a new commer (it is a culture based stigma). So,what we have to do,instead of blaming who did what, who is problematic in between  the two spouses, who has more symptoms. Better look forward for a family theraputic session which can really enable u(again the social stigma wants the women to tackle it).And that can ease the way u look into the problem. And we expect the same to happen with ur husband and his family.