It sounds like you are experiencing high stress from your neighbourâs behaviour and from the belief that people are repeatedly targeting you through harmful acts (like insecticide, hair, soil, or âtona-totkaâ). Even if your neighbour denies it, the repeated distress and fear you feel are very real for you. Long-term stress of this nature can cause body symptoms like burning sensation, leg pain, or headaches. This situation has been going on for years, which shows how heavy a burden it has become for you.
Next Steps
Safety first: If you feel your neighbour is throwing harmful substances (insecticide etc.), keep photo or video evidence, and you may file a complaint with the local police or society management. Medical support: Burning sensations, headaches, and pain can also come from stress or nerve issues, so please consult a physician/neurologist as well. Mental health support: Since this fear and tension have lasted many years, I strongly suggest meeting a psychiatrist or psychologist. They can help you reduce the constant anxiety, check if there is an underlying condition making the fear stronger, and give you coping strategies.
Health Tips
Practice grounding techniques (deep breathing, counting, or focusing on safe surroundings) when you feel attacked or overwhelmed. Keep communication calm with your husband â rather than quarrelling, explain how these events make you feel, not just what happened. Write a daily log of incidents (time, date, what was seen/felt) â this helps both for clarity and if you need to show evidence. If possible, involve a trusted family member or community elder who can mediate between you and the neighbour to reduce conflict.