It sounds like you're going through a complex emotional experience. It's not uncommon for feelings to change over time, and sometimes our initial reactions or decisions might not align with how we truly feel. It's important to remember that feelings are fluid, and it's okay for them to evolve or shift.
Feeling guilty and ashamed is a natural reaction, but it's important to give yourself some understanding and forgiveness. We all make choices that we might regret later on, but these experiences can be opportunities for growth and self-discovery.
In terms of your situation with the boy, communication is key. You've already taken steps to communicate your changed feelings to him, which is an important step in being honest and respectful. It's better to be upfront about your feelings rather than leading him on or pretending to feel something you don't.
If you find that your feelings for him have truly changed and you're no longer interested, it's important to be clear with him and allow both of you to move forward. It might be uncomfortable in the short term, but in the long run, it's better for both parties involved.
Remember that you're not alone in experiencing shifts in emotions or making decisions that might not align with your true feelings. It's all part of the complex human experience, and growth often comes from these kinds of situations. If you're struggling to process your emotions, consider talking to a friend, family member, or even a professional counselor who can provide support and guidance.
Next Steps
Consult a Counselling Psychologist. CBT along with Interpersonal Guidance and Counselling is required.
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