Dear young lady,
You have some anxious and avoidance traits in your personality. It may be possible that your father also shares these traits with you, but every person is his own type. So, please don't blame him mentally for this situation. you are also correct in saying that it is tough to change your situation, but my dear friend, THE GOOD NEWS IS that you CAN change this situation.
Next Steps
You should get in touch with a psychiatrist or a psychologist who can take you up for a planned psychotherapy (cognitive behavior therapy). This will help you change the way you subconsciously see people and situations and will make you more free and amicable.