It’s good that you recognize your anger and impulse to retaliate, but also that you don’t want to ruin your life over a moment of conflict. Your reaction—standing up for yourself when you feel wronged—is understandable, but the real issue is that you continue to think about these situations long after they happen, which affects your peace of mind.
Instead of focusing on whether you could have beaten them, shift your mindset to emotional control and self-discipline—the true signs of strength. You don’t need to prove yourself in every argument, especially with strangers who won’t change their behavior no matter how much you confront them. The best approach is to assess whether the argument is worth your energy—most of the time, walking away keeps your power intact while engaging only fuels unnecessary stress. Practicing deep breathing, controlled responses, and learning to let go of these incidents will help you move on faster.
Therapy can help you develop better emotional regulation techniques and reduce overthinking about such situations. If you want to take online therapy sessions, connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five. I can help you work through anger management and impulse control strategies.
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