Hello sir I can sense what you are going through. Raising children unfortunately does not have any handbook. I'm sure you are doing your best as father and it can be frustrating when your daughter does not listen to you. Transparency of thoughts and good communication can be helpful. Expressing to her what you are going through and trying to understand what she is going through can be help. It is very important to express unconditional love and trust in your verbal and non verbal communication. You could take her to a psychological counsellor where she could talk about what she's going through. Family therapy may also work beneficial in this situation.