Dear concerned you seem to have some emotional distress, kindly consult a clinical psychologist for a detailed psychological evaluation. Once assessed, you can be helped with CBT & IPT - approaches of psychotherapy. Do connect to me on practo consult for help

You need to evaluated first. Based on assessment you will be advised solution for your problem.

Unnecessary fights arise due to unsolved incidents,when you do not accept and stay in the trauma state whereas your partner holds different views and finds your concerns insignificant.please accept your surroundings learn to forgive and be easy on yourself and others. Drink adequate water,specially when you feel aggravated.think before you react,everything can be justified but expression of anger on a child cannot be explained. consult a professional asap if you can not work on your impulse. Try relaxation exercises and learn to practice let go.

Do meet a Psychologist and seek some guidance to overall those issues..