Hi!
I appreciate your effort to seek support and help. Im happy to acknowledge that you have got good insight about your issue and it's cause.
As you have well mentioned , since it is a pattern , it needs in person intervention and consultation to understand the core issues origin and healing techniques to be applied.
I have handled lots of abuse and relationship issues, if the patient cooperates,I have seen them healing very quickly. So don't worry. It is highly treatable.
May God bless you!
Next Steps
kindly consult a counseling psychologist in person.