What you're going through is genuinely exhausting, and the lost sleep makes it feel harder than it already is. This is a tough but normal phase, not a sign you're doing something wrong.
Next Steps
Pick one consistent replacement, a cuddle, a pat, or water, and offer only that at every waking for at least a week so feeding isn't one of several options anymore. If someone else can handle some of the night wakings, he stops holding out specifically for you.
Health Tips
It often gets harder for a few nights before it improves, so try to stick with one approach instead of switching methods. If the crying feels extreme or nothing changes after a couple of weeks, please loop in your pediatrician.