I truly appreciate you for being honest about your situation and owning up the responsibility to seek a solution.
The fact that your husband feels ignored shows that he cares enough to have a healthy relationship with your mother.
If he is okay with it, he could have a conversation with her explaining his views on being a stickler for time for dining and sleeping. He could gently ask her how they could work this out in a way that her feelings are not hurt and at the same time it doesn't feel too stifling an atmosphere for him as well.
More than being right or wrong, I see that it is absolutely natural for challenges like these that need to be delicately addressed come up when we humans, the complex beings that we are, learn to coexist in the same space.
Most importantly, I want you to know that you are strong, compassionate and caring enough to feel responsible for sorting this out. With your honorable intentions, the matter could be amicably settled.
Take care.
Answered2020-06-21 11:48:41
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