First ask yourself do you want a future with your partner? This need for significance and importance that he is unable to fulfill makes you more attracted, obsessed and dependent on him. So you need to gain a position of strength where you make the decision for your life and evaluate whether your current partner has the qualities that you want in a husband. If the answer is yes, then you need to give it time and be patient or accept his refusal with dignity and respect his decision. If the answer is no, then you need to convey that to your partner and part ways amicably.