Hi. For noone does the problems exist permanently. You be with your husband and support him confidently to solve issues. When you start understanding him more many of your issues will fade away. Go for counselling and talk your problems in details. According to that we can have solution. Having an affair just gives temporary happiness and later you will feel that it fades away with time. You have lots to do for your kid. You can concentrate on her more.

The behaviour of men is a bit different when they are in difficulties. Men want to put up a front of strength and resilience, more so in front of their wives. If their status as providers for their family is under threat, they may hide it from wife. Now, don’t ask why men are like this. That is a lengthy answer. Just accept it. In your case , since you say your husband is in a financial mess, he must be in a “shut down” state. Your sence of loneliness is genuine, because husband may be concentrating more on his finances than family. Sort of taking you for granted. The best thing you can do is support him unconditionally, even if he has made idiotic blunders, possibly against your advise. The worst thing you can do is have an affair and put one more worry in the lap of your husband. So just relax and let him solve his problems, help him in finances if he needs it. Keep telling him how great and handsome he is......... even if you feel otherwise.