Dear friend some cases of vaginismus hv positive history of some trauma or abuse that would require professional sexual counselling and therapy. Other causes would be neuromuscular in-ordination or spasm or vaginal dryness . For these pharmaceutical agents for anxiety , muscle relaxant and topical lubricants n progressive dilatation or gradual dilatation might be needed.
Kindly take proper professional consultation.
Next Steps
Patience n partners cooperation is the key.
Health Tips
No forceful insertion or penetration to avoid trauma
Remember slow n steady wins the race