Hello there, I must say that you are brave enough to bring this issue which is in these types situation where women are often asked to maintain sanity till they get married and later one fine day they have to share bed with stranger. But, as I read your Question, I hope following can help you : 1. Visit a Gaenacologist to check in case any problem for the pain. 2. Talk to your husband to express your feelings as support and affection does help a lot. 3. Go for counselling can be (couple or individual) 4. Don't be scared and blame yourself. It's alright if you feel about your body in a certain way.

Do not panic or fear. 1st you should consult Gynaecologist and check if any physical problems are there. If there is no physical problems then psychological guidance can solve your all problems. Consult us for help.

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Hey We need to talk more about it It happens with some people... There r methods u can use and dont take it like a task. It's an enjoyablr activity. U will be able to do it

It could happen with some women, as they might have heard some fearful stories during adolescent and develop some opinion or fear. Later they forget about it but the fear remain in. Though it is love marrage and you too want to have the experience, that fear is coming up.

Consult with a professional Counselor soon

Hello dear I can understand what you might be going through. It might be hard for you to have such experiences where you might be scared instead of feeling it as a pleasurable one. You might be thinking of how to get through this as it is related to your lifestyle. Don't worry, consult a good psychologist or a therapist as soon as possible. You can also contact me and I will try to help you towards your recovery. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can find your own solutions. Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!

Appreciate uoir courage and the willingness to seek support in resolving your issue.. Mostly, these issues are psychological.. Consult a psychological counsellor, who also has experience in Relationship Counselling..

Hi Consult psychologist

Counseling will help you.connect with me ..my therapy charges are very low..so therapy can be available to everyone .

Hi... Please visit a Gynaecologist first to rule out any physiological cause. I have worked on such issues and working on one such case even now. I believe this is more psychological. What is happening is that your mind is generating a false alarm (panic response) to a natural process of intercourse considering it a threat. This panic response is basically a freeze response which is part of our animal brain which used to work in our defence when we used to live in jungles and there were real physical threat of a predator. Therefore we have this fight, flight, or freeze responses. Some predators do not eat a dead meat, hence a freeze response used to save our lives sometimes. You might have seen birds demonstrating a freeze response when they get hit. This panic response can be altered using a combination of relaxation techniques and counselling. Systematic Desensitisation and Hypnosis may also yield good results.