It has been extremely stressful for you both as there are multiple aspects involved here leading to present situation.
Firstly, It's just 4 months since you are married. Adequate adjustment & bonding wouldn't have happened in such a short span. Mutual understanding & trust needs time to build.
Secondly, She has come here to a remote place with a different culture without knowing many or having few friends. She doesn't feel engaged here except while she is managing household..? Adjusting to a place, people & environment takes time.
Thirdly, she has entered pregnancy with already existing insecurity & loneliness which when combined with hormonal alteration she is going through might be making her really sad & helpless. In her situation, she has been adamant on going back.
Fourthly, you are also suffering & helpless as an individual, husband & prospective parent. You cannot leave a steady profession here & leave to your native however you cannot console her & bring her back to a calmer & happier mindset. You might be okay in this situation to send her to her native for this period however that also would make her miss you & get insecure .
Finally, At this point it is not just about you both but also about the third life growing within her who also would be affected by her mindset.
As a solution, find out if there is some activity she enjoys engaging with, which she may use as a weapon to engage as well as socialize with your aid. Find out if her parents could stay with you here at least for a month while she is coping. Take her for walks/rides/day out to acquaint her with city & people also make her talk more about her experiencing of new life. Finally make her understand your stand towards your job in her own way. Get her acquainted more with social networking. Ensure that she feels engaged & appreciated as much as possible.
A Counseling session with a professional(a psychologist or psychiatrist) might be of great help at this point as a prenatal consultation and as an assistance to adjust better. Think about it with priority.
Take Care & Be Strong.
Answered2016-10-17 15:03:25
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