But should we both do counciling or just me as I have more dark fantasies or sexual pleasures that want to go with to enjoy sex at peak, generally what seen in porn but few i can tell wife few can't as those are too modern or happen in high class society..but I am not able to figure it out how to start..will counciling help me here? Also my intercourse tym is more than 20-25 min still want to do something which will give high pleasure in sex as regular sex activities or same things everytime are not giving more spice in sex life