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It sounds like you & your girlfriend had different expectations from each other which resulted in your girlfriend breaking up with you. It must be really isolating for you when you were missing her more & it was not the same from her side. I know the relationship was hurtful & bitter for you as you were not understood & loved the way you wanted. It didn't end the way you wanted & you are still trying to process it. Also you are trying to understand if she really had feelings for you?

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Hi, It sounds like your relationship was marked by significant conflicts surrounding intimacy and communication, which ultimately contributed to its toxicity. Your demands for more frequent sexual engagement and feelings of hurt when your girlfriend wasn’t able to meet those needs led to a cycle of blame and frustration. Her reactions, like dismissing your requests for video calls and expressing a lack of interest in sexting, likely intensified your feelings of inadequacy and longing. When she broke up, the shock and betrayal you felt are understandable, especially given your emotional investment and dependence on her response to your desires. The subsequent blocking suggests a need for her to establish firm boundaries and protect herself from further emotional harm, as your pleas may have felt overwhelming to her. While it’s painful to hear her say she didn't love you, it might have been her way of expressing that the relationship had become untenable for her. Reflecting on these dynamics might help you understand the complexities of intimacy in relationships and work on healthier patterns in the future.

Hi Here is my reply to you after giving it a thought I hear you. It sounds like you were deeply attached to her and had certain emotional and physical expectations in the relationship that weren’t met, which led to frustration, misunderstandings, and ultimately, the breakup. From what you’ve shared, she seemed to have a different comfort level and approach to intimacy, while you had your own needs for connection and reassurance. The mismatch in expectations probably created resentment on both sides—you felt neglected, she felt pressured. When she broke up, it was sudden for you, but it may have been building up for her over time. The way she reacted—blocking, abusing, watching reels—might seem heartless, but it was probably her way of shutting down emotionally after feeling drained. Some people detach completely as a defense mechanism, especially after feeling hurt for a long time. The question “Was it real?”—yes, it was real while it lasted. But people can fall out of love when they feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or emotionally exhausted. It doesn’t mean she never cared, just that she reached a point where she felt she couldn’t continue. I know this hurts, but maybe instead of focusing on whether her feelings were real, ask yourself—what did this relationship teach you about emotional needs, boundaries, and communication? If you could go back, what would you do differently? That’s where healing starts.

Try slow, deep breaths and grounding exercises to calm your nervous system.