I understand your predicament.
I would like make a few suggestions that could be helpful.
By now, a pattern of behavior and response would have been established between both of you. The child would have a certain set of behaviors ( referring to the set of behaviors that you feel need intervention ) and as a parent, you would respond to them in a certain manner. the cycle repeats.
One of the things you could do is break this pattern by responding in a manner that could change the way she perceives how those same set of situations could be handled.
Please be rest assured that this phase is going to pass.
So, when, say, she throws a tantrum, with calm and composure within knowing that you are going to tackle this successfully, speak to her in an unaffected, calm and composed manner. Instead of conceding to her demands, with all the love and affection as a parent, ask her what's really troubling her and how you could be of help to her. Tell her that you love her the most and would do everything to help her but can do so only when she stops screaming and speaks to you calmly.
During the rest of the day, kindly make sure that you have a fun time playing with her, reading and enacting stories or doing chores together. Kindly make sure that she spends more time with books and activities rather than watching content on the TV or any such devices.
As a parent, this is an opportunity for you to mirror the kind of behavior and manner of speech that you would like your child to learn. Regardless of the tantrums, the screaming or the aggressive behavior, be consistent in the way you respond to her. Be consistent in insisting lovingly that when she speaks to you in a loving and respectful manner, you will always lend a listening ear.
It is important that you are taking adequate care of yourself too.
Here are a few suggestions that could be helpful :
Whenever you feel overwhelmed, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths.
Here is a breathing exercise that could help you :
You may do this in the night too once you have finished with your tasks for the day :
Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this ten times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine.
Gently massage the back of your neck and the base of the skull when you lie down to rest.
Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world.
What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world?
Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs.
Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of the kind of feedback you received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow.
One of the definitions of stress is the thought(s) or the belief that you don't have the capability and the resources to address, to deal with, to successfully overcome the challenge(s) that is right in front of you now.
Consider the components of this equation - On one end you have the object that induces this belief in you ( it might be a person/event/situation ). Is there anything you can do to change this side of the equation?
On the other end, you have your resources to tackle it - reflect on whether you have done all you can to prepare for it/address it/ do justice to it.
Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time.
Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution.
Here are a few links that could be helpful :
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41615
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41716
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41867
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41735
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41642
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41639 Step One
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41640 Step Two
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41641 Step Three
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41645 Step Four
Take care.
Answered2020-08-06 03:08:39
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