Hi What you’re missing isn’t just the conversations—it’s the sense of being emotionally seen. Whether or not he reconnects will depend on his own inner work, not your efforts alone. The best thing you can do now is to take a pause, shift the focus to your own healing, and gently accept that his behavior is not a reflection of your worth or loveability. Sometimes the most loving thing is to stop chasing the version of someone they showed only briefly and start protecting the version of you that deserves consistency. Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

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Give him his own space to overcome the dilemma... He just needs time... nothing else. Do not call him from your end. Let him develop his logical mind to decide and remain firm on the same. You need an expert counseling psychologist to get a few tips.

Hi,It is very difficult to keep a romantic relationship and friendly relationship together for a person.Give him time to figure it out.In the mean time,you need to focus on your own mental and physical health.You can connect with a psychologist for professional help

Hey, I hear you, this sounds really painful and could be confusing for you. When someone has an avoidant attachment style, they can pull you in close and then push you away when emotions feel overwhelming. It doesn’t mean what he shared wasn’t real, but it also doesn’t mean he’s capable of maintaining the closeness he expressed. That’s a tough spot for you to be in. Right now, your emotions are valid, and the grief you’re feeling is real. But instead of waiting in pain or overanalyzing his next move, this might be a good time to focus on you. Therapy could help you process this hurt, understand attachment patterns, and build boundaries that protect your peace. You’re not alone, and healing is possible.

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Hi, It sounds like your friend has a complex and avoidant attachment style, which can make deep emotional connections challenging for him, especially when he feels overwhelmed or needs space. His recent actions—spending time with you, opening up, expressing how much you mean to him—indicate that he genuinely values your friendship and cares deeply, but his need for independence and his relationship with his girlfriend are also important to him. His words about feeling suffocated and needing space suggest he is trying to balance his own needs, which can sometimes lead to mixed signals. It's possible he still values your friendship and may reconnect in the future, but healing and reconnection depend on both of you respecting his boundaries and giving him the space he needs. For now, focus on taking care of your emotional well-being, avoid pushing him for immediate answers, and allow things to unfold naturally. Staying patient, understanding his patterns, and maintaining a respectful distance can help preserve your friendship in the long run.

Hi, Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly. It’s clear that this connection meant a lot to you, and navigating emotional closeness with someone who has an avoidant attachment style can be deeply confusing and painful. What you described seems like a genuine moment of emotional vulnerability from him, but avoidant individuals often struggle with intimacy—they may open up and then pull away out of fear, overwhelm, or a need for control and space. This doesn’t invalidate what he felt in the moment; it just shows how conflicted he may be internally. Right now, it’s important to focus on your emotional well-being. Therapy can help you process the hurt, understand attachment patterns (yours and his), and decide whether holding space for this connection is healthy or if it’s time to set boundaries and heal. You deserve consistent emotional safety, not confusion. If he reconnects in the future, it should be on terms that respect your needs too. Warmly, Garima Chauhan Clinical Psychologist