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Anger issue
My husband never raise his hands on me , he use to be such a loving husband, its been 1 year since he can't control his emotion , and started pushing me , choking me and pulling my control , he also said he want to punch my face but he control it , but after that he apologise, but when he is not mad he us this best thing ever that happened to me, which councillor should I suggest for him , I want him to be sweet as he used to be and I'm also having anxieties and our marriage Is almost ending ...
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Thank you for sharing your concerns. You need to figure out what are the reasons for your husband’s anger.
Your husband may also benefit from counselling to understand where the anger is stemming from and what he can do better to deal with his difficult emotions.
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Your husband needs to seek mental health support asap.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine if required.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I'm deeply sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing in your marriage. It's clear that the shift in your husband's behavior is causing you significant distress and concern for your safety and well-being. From a psychological perspective, it's important to address this situation with care and urgency. Here are some considerations:
Safety First: Your safety is paramount. If you are in immediate danger or fear for your safety, it's crucial to seek help from local resources such as domestic violence hotlines, shelters, or law enforcement.
Individual Therapy for Your Husband: Given his escalating behavior and difficulty controlling his emotions, it's essential for your husband to seek individual therapy with a licensed therapist who specializes in anger management, domestic violence intervention, and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). A therapist trained in these areas can help him understand the root causes of his aggression, develop healthier coping mechanisms, and learn strategies to manage his emotions in a constructive manner.
Couple's Therapy: In addition to individual therapy for your husband, it may also be beneficial for both of you to attend couple's therapy together. A qualified couples therapist can provide a safe and neutral space for open communication, facilitate constructive dialogue, and help address underlying issues contributing to the strain in your marriage. Couple's therapy can also support you in setting boundaries, rebuilding trust, and exploring ways to strengthen your relationship.
Trauma-Informed Care: Given your experiences of anxiety and the distress caused by your husband's behavior, it's important for you to prioritize your own mental health and well-being. Consider seeking support from a therapist who specializes in trauma-informed care and can provide you with the tools and coping strategies to manage your anxieties, process your experiences, and navigate the challenges in your marriage.
Safety Planning: Develop a safety plan with the guidance of a therapist or domestic violence advocate. This plan should include strategies for protecting yourself in case of escalation, identifying safe places to go, and accessing resources for support.
It's understandable that you desire for your husband to return to his previous loving behavior, but it's essential to prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. Encourage your husband to take responsibility for his actions and seek the help he needs to address his behavior. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and dignity in your marriage.
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The next steps for you in this situation involve prioritizing your safety, seeking support, and making decisions that are in your best interest. Here's a suggested plan of action: Ensure Your Safety: If you feel that you are in immediate danger or at risk of harm, it's crucial to prioritize your safety above all else. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, or local domestic violence hotline for support and assistance. You may need to develop a safety plan to protect yourself in case of escalation. Seek Individual Therapy: Given the distressing experiences you've described and the anxiety you're experiencing, consider seeking support from a therapist who specializes in trauma-informed care and anxiety management. Individual therapy can provide you with a safe space to process your emotions, explore coping strategies, and develop a plan for your well-being. Set Boundaries: It's important to establish clear boundaries in your relationship to protect yourself from further harm. Communicate your boundaries to your husband in a calm and assertive manner, and enforce consequences if they are crossed. Consider seeking guidance from a therapist or domestic violence advocate on how to effectively set and maintain boundaries. Explore Options for Support: Reach out to local resources and support services for individuals experiencing domestic violence or relationship difficulties. This may include domestic violence hotlines, shelters, support groups, or legal aid services. These organizations can offer guidance, support, and resources tailored to your specific needs and circumstances. Consider Relationship Counseling: While your safety should always come first, if you feel that it's safe to do so and you're interested in exploring the possibility of reconciliation, consider attending couples therapy with your husband. A qualified therapist can provide a safe and neutral space for open communication, facilitate constructive dialogue, and help address underlying issues in your relationship. Evaluate Your Options: Take some time to reflect on your relationship and assess whether it is healthy and fulfilling for you. Consider your own needs, values, and boundaries, and weigh the pros and cons of staying in the relationship versus seeking separation or divorce. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and dignity in your relationship. Take Care of Yourself: Prioritize self-care and prioritize your own well-being during this challenging time. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfillment, and lean on your support network for encouragement and support. Ultimately, the next steps you take will depend on your individual circumstances, needs, and priorities. Trust yourself to make decisions that are in your best interest, and don't hesitate to seek support and assistance from trusted professionals like us and loved ones along the way.
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Anger management and boundary establishment is currently required in your relationship. There might be requirements for individuals along with couple therapy sessions.
It's a hard time for you but understanding that it's necessary to feel safe and loved at the same time. Relationships can't go a long way with one being absent. Takecare
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Given the behavior you've described, it's crucial to seek help from a professional as soon as possible. I would recommend looking for a counselor or therapist who specializes in domestic violence or anger management. They will have the expertise and experience to help your husband address his emotions and behaviors in a healthy and constructive way. In addition, it would be beneficial for both of you to seek individual counseling to address your own anxieties and concerns.
Please remember that your safety and well-being should always come first. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, please seek help right away by contacting a local domestic violence hotline or emergency services.
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One possibility in situations like the one you have mentioned, wherein your otherwise nice husband has become irritable, angry etc. is that he is under anxiety, the reasons for which you may not be able to make out. In such situations, genuine, mature communication (if both of you are able to generate it) can work wonders. This communication should not be a fault-finding, mutually blaming, nagging or self - glorification session. Instead, select timing in such a way that only both of you are there and there is nothing that can distract your conversations. Encourage him, through your words and body language, to open up and pour his heart out. You should have the largeheartedness to understand and accept what he has to communicate openly. Then try to repair the situation with sincerity, giving him a feeling that come what may, you will stand with him always. On this, you may seek the help of a psychologist if you feel like.
Apart from the above, please try to get his mental health checked up through a psychologist or a psychiatrist specifically for any anxiety issues that he may be carrying. If there is such a situation, please get it treated.
The other suggestions that I have for you are, to do the best possible from your side to improve intimacy (including sexual). Please try to avoid involving side-taking friends or relatives in your current trouble. Do everything possible to build trust between both of you. Please also learn to forgive for it will work wonders in improving the quality of the relationship between both of you.
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