Hello! Thank you for reaching out. We can understand how this might be very distressing to you. As we go about our lives, we physically exist in the present- however, our mind has the capability to be in the past, present or future and think of multiple aspects of it. This is something that is adaptive, because it allows us to learn and recall from the past, and anticipate the future. However, this is all done so that we can live a better present. It can then be very tempting to focus on the past or future, than live in the present. It is true that we take lessons and learnings from our past, however as you mention- there is a likely tendency to focus more on the negatives. It is common that we forget about the positives that happen with us in the past and we stick with the negatives much more. This can make us feel that everyone has betrayed or deceived us at one point of time or the other, or someone new might do the same because of a previous experience. Developing a present-centric approach can be useful in this scenario. Staying in the present allows you to take the situation as it comes and not judge it based on past or future events. Grounding exercises are excellent means of being in the present. Asking yourself questions like, ‘How do I feel about this at the moment?’, ‘What is happening in this situation right now?’ can be helpful. This will allow you to see the situation as it is and not in the lens of the past. Additionally, you mentioned that you find yourself in situations where you feel like you don’t wish to talk. It is perfectly okay to feel that way. In such moments, it can be helpful to communicate in a polite way to the other person, so that they know that you wish to deal with something by yourself. ‘I don’t feel like talking right now. I will figure out why I feel this way by myself and I appreciate you giving me this space.’ This will provide a healthy boundary as well as not make your partner feel like they have done something to upset you. Communicating clearly and introspection could provide you with a lot more ease. We would highly recommend you to approach a professional counsellor/mental health practitioner who would be able to guide you through in a safe and non-judgemental manner. It is perfectly okay to seek out professional help from mental health practitioners from organisations or independent set ups. Credits: Parul Pushkarna, Intern at Heart it Out

Good day my Friend,  I can understand your concern. Appreciate you for identifying your gaps and seeking help to fix it. Short temper,  anger, aggression, irritation, frustration, mood swings etc are expression or outbursts of stress in your mind. You need to first ventilate such feelings, emotions and thoughts out of your mind to overcome this problem. Be positive. It's an addressable issue if are willing to make few changes in your mindset,  lifestyle, food habbit,  daily routines and follow few techniques.  Are you willing to make this changes? If then reach me online for further assistance and assessment of your physical and mental symptoms to recommend suitable non medicine alternative solutions. Be positive.  You will be alright soon.

On the basis of problem described by you. You need to consult a clinical psychologist. If you are expecting some tips to solve your problem then I would say it won't be helpful at all.

Dear concerned you need a detailed psychological evaluation to help you. Well you serm to be indecisive & perplexed. Do see a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist for the needful. You can connect to me  on practo consult for help.

Hi, it looks like certain incidents in the past have affected you. It looks like you connect what has happened in the past with the present. You feel upset and lonely and you don’t want to feel angry. To feel better you can consult a psychologist and counseling sessions will help you.

Hello human. Thank you for sharing your problem with us. I appreciate your decision to seek help. It seems like you may not have fully healed from your past experiences. It is possible that they are re-surfacing now and causing negative emotions. The pandemic and subsequent lockdown too could have inadvertently contributed to your situation. I would recommend you to begin by taking care of your physical health. Ensure you have a healthy diet, get enough sleep and exercise. Practicing mindfulness techniques like yoga and meditation may help you connect with your inner self. For issues with a short temper, try breathing exercises.

Talk to a psychologist to help yourself.

Yes, it happens. But don't always these behaviours casually. Whatever you arr experiencing there must be a reason behind. Don't worry together with Psychotherapy we can resolve your inner conflicts.

Hello, Glad to know that you are seeking help,seems like you are stuck with the past happenings which have not resolved yet.You are struggling continuously with these thoughts and you become irritable with the present situation.Seems like you have not given a proper closure to the past happenings that is why they keep on coming to your mind and you start to untangle them.It is affecting your all facets at present.

Due to those experiences you went through, a d due to those opinions which could have concluded, it is affecting your current life and the relationship..