Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help. Handling and balancing between two families is an art and it's really a tough job and no wonder you are stressed. There is no one right solution to solve such problems, it depends as you need to satisfy the ego of so many people. Only thing you can do is getting yourself better prepared to handle such stress. If you are not in control, you will not be able to find some sweet spots (God provides such opportunities) to fix the issue.Discuss with your loved once for some help. If not, You may take some counselling support to figure out your point of stress and ways to control it. You can reach me online for further assistance.