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I was seeing a guy for marrying we talked for almost 6 months and he always said I was compatible and he is 13 years older to me so I was not really comfortable talking to him and I showed less interest in him and I stopped contacting him because I felt maybe he is ignoring me and after 2 weeks of no contact he contacted the matchmaker and told her that his family are not like accepting him to marry me because of the kundli thing but my question is why didn't he told me all of this and why didn't that matchmaker contacted me ? I mean why they both can't say it to me directly and that matchmaker even wanted us to like beg but we didn't. I'm just disappointed not hurt because that guy asked me in Feb to marry him in April or may I said this is early and now he didn't confronted me and also that matchmaker .and he did it after 2weeks of no contact .and I didn't contacted them both I simply deleted their contact number.
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You were seeing a guy for marriage and he has let you down. You are disappointed by the way he has handled the situation. There was no direct communication and you have now deleted his contact number. You are disappointed about what has happened and you are probably upset about it as well. It is important to know how often you think of him and the way he has handled the marriage situation. You can now gradually work on moving on. Try to not reflect on the past too much and be confident that you will find a great partner.
Seek professional help from a psychologist.
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Hi,It is okay to delete his phone number..If you have decided not to contact him further it is a good decision.You mentioned that you were not comfortable talking with him.Dont feel guilty.lf you are not comfortable with each other there is no point in staying in a relationship.Trust your instinct.You will be able to find a perfect match.Wish you all the best.
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Hi ,
You have taken the right actions in making the correct choices in moving on .
By taking actions on your feelings, this liberates you in a way, Though it is important not to dwell on the negative feelings or to over-analyze the situation.
You cannot make people like, love, understand, communicate, because their thoughts -actions are not in our control .
You can focus on your own thoughts and actions and feel empowered with making the good right choices.
Give yourself some space , move on forward .
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I think, no professional can answer these Whys that you have asked here. You seem to have a healthy response to whatever has happened. I can gauge this from whatever limited information you have shared with her.
Why people choose to behave a certain way only they can answer .
Take care of yourself :)
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Hi.. You have done the right thing deleting their contacts. You need to completely loose all touch and come out of all this mentally. Try not to be even thinking about him or this episode. Sooner you come out of it, is better. There is no reason behind all this and there is absolutely no way to find out what happened behind the scenes. The best way here is to let go of everything. We can't control how other people think, feel, & behave. We can't control their choices & priorities. We can't rely so much on their morality, for us to receive their honest answers. This whole thing is messed up and not worth any more pain. Give yourself sometime off this thing completely and you will have a much better picture of this whole thing. Also you will be able to make better choices in the future.
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