Hi Dear, your question is a bit ambiguous but let me try and answer it hope you find it useful Love itself is a feeling and can be defined as romance , passion, intimate, infatuation, lust, care, affection between two people or it could be experienced with your parents, siblings, caregivers or pets But as love evolves it becomes trust, acceptance & gratitude, and understanding comes from the level of emotional intelligence which varies from person to person Evolving in the relationship means having deep intimacy and mutual kindness, real commitment, soulful caring, empathy and compassion and innate ability to share emotional experience. But to achieve those relationship goals, we need all the skills of a high EQ

That comes near to ur basic drive. Things which fullfil the basic drives and its associated things are more important thant other things.