Got ur pain n concern though it's unfortunate but common too in such stressful senario.
Its technique to masterd.
Everyone will win but loving & calm Approach n with preparation before war is directly proportional.
Next Steps
consult AYURVEDIC college Hospital in ur city or clinic especially sexologist for examination n personalized evaluation of Ur case n cause.
Health Tips
Engage in Healthier habits of food exercise, Yoga n adequate sleep with stopping Tabacoo, Alcohol, reducing salt n sour food n drinks and late night life or dinner