I understand your distressful situation. Your husband seems to be suffering from adjustment problems with depressive symptoms. However more clarity is needed regarding the problem to decide on severity of the condition. Your personality traits may have to be evaluated in detail as well. It is easily manageable with appropriate treatment, so that dysfunction due to the same can be reduced and your quality of life will improve. Some counselling sessions and if needed medical help might be useful for both of you. I would also be more than happy to help you with that if you are looking for online assistance. Discussions will be held confidential. You can directly consult with me through Practo as needed. Online chat consultation is available.