All these are ongoing problems in most of Th. Household. You will have to know others opinion or validation is not required for you to feel good. You yourself knowing your strengths and capabilities is more than enough. You engage yourself in activities which you like and be content
Next Steps
It's the way they think so you can just ignore their comments and be yourself .
One more option is you can openly communicate that you are being hurt by their comments - they may like it or may not - at times people won't be knowing till you communicate.
Health Tips
Just know what you want to do in your life and proceed with that
"Others don't define who you are "