I do understand that you must be having a very difficult time balancing the family and your partner. I also understand that you have significant feelings of affection and emotional attachment to your partner. However I am sorry to tell you that love and abuse cannot exist together, and if your partner is being abusive in the relationship at this stage I would strongly advice you to review the future of this relationship. No man/ women in any relationship has the right to physically or emotionally abuse another person. Kindly get out of the abusive relationship is my advice. Seek help of a psychologist or a psychiatrist near you if you need further guidance. Hope this helps you..