Child and parents can take a Counseling sessions to learn the strategy.

Hi,There are developmental stages from infancy to lifelong.A 10 yr old is an emerging adolescent.Their body and mind are undergoing tremendous change.But they need to be corrected where necessary.Every child is unique.There can be many reasons for a child not to do their work perfectly.You have to see their interest, aptitude,skills etc.Never compare your child with others.You can consult a psychologist. .

There are 2 ways.. positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement which is similar to scolding or treating kindly. At a point some kids need negative reinforcement still without punishment. And positive reinforcement with a reward. One need to check on their kid which technique is working on them very well. If the kid is not being able to understand and didn't do the right thing with positive stroke then try without punishment. Kids never like parents who scold. Kids only love parents who can be friendly. A universal saying it is. If punishment is given then the kid will develop anger and hatred and that's why we don't want the kids to be on the negative side. Sometimes it is hard to handle always with patience. That's totally fine, even if that scolding is working but at the end try to make the kid feel and talk about why this scolding happened. They must understand but that understanding takes sometime.

Hello, scolding can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, which might leave deep impressions on a young mind. There can be many other healthier ways to discipline and encourage a child. It can be helpful to get in touch with a counselor to discuss your parenting style and to receive suggestions about other ways of interacting with your child, the duration and situation specific techniques. I hope this helps.

Parenting is a skill. Each parent can follow their own methodology.. Still seeking a professional support for a better understanding.. Consult a psychological counsellor both of you as parent together..

In a lighter vein, you can scold a child of 10 years, but you may not. Scolding is not something that can be measured in terms of right and wrong or good and bad. It usually produces negative results. The aim should be to make the child do things with adequate autonomy (self-involvement). If you visit the website of the World Health Organisation you can find the list of life skills that a child/person has to have for living satisfactorily. The question then would be, is the child being brought up in a way that allows him/her to develop / utilise life skills? We feel like scolding / punishing children mostly because they are not meeting our own expectations. In that, we often do not grant them their individuality in an age-appropriate way. With this as the background, I would suggest you (presuming that you are an affected parent and you would like to have a sincere introspection) to check out if the child is being dealt with in an age-appropriate way, entitled to accept the ownership of the consequences, in terms of life skills. If not, change your strategy from scolding to making the child accountable and responsible for what he/she does and does not do. With this you can expect much better results than from scolding. Making the child accountable and responsible in an age-appropriate way is an essential parenting skill. A psychologist may be able to guide you on improving that skill.

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