It’s good that you are acknowledging this issue openly and seeking help. Problems related to intimacy in marriage are more common than people realize, and feeling disconnected or unsatisfied can sometimes lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms like porn addiction. It’s important to approach this sensitively for both yourself and your relationship.

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Hi, It's understandable that feeling a lack of intimacy in your marriage can lead to feelings of frustration and seeking out alternative sources of gratification, such as pornography. However, it's important to address both your concerns about porn addiction and the intimacy issues with your wife in a healthy manner. Open and honest communication with your wife is key; consider discussing your feelings and desires with her to better understand her perspective and explore potential solutions together. Engaging in shared activities that may foster closeness, such as date nights or couples' activities, might help rekindle intimacy. Regarding your addiction to porn, you might benefit from seeking support through therapy or counseling, which can provide strategies to manage and reduce your reliance on it. Additionally, practicing mindfulness, setting boundaries around your consumption, and seeking out healthier outlets for intimacy and connection can be beneficial. Lastly, since you are on medication for hypertension, it’s advisable to consult your healthcare provider before making any significant changes to your treatment or beginning any new interventions, including medication for sexuality or therapy. Remember that addressing these concerns takes time, and seeking professional support can be a vital step toward improvement.

Hi, Consult a psychologist for  couple counselling

This sounds like a deeply personal struggle, and I want to acknowledge how hard it must be to feel emotionally and physically disconnected in your marriage. When physical intimacy becomes infrequent, it can create a silent gap — not just in the body, but in the heart too. And when those needs go unmet, the mind naturally seeks other ways to cope, like turning to porn. But over time, what begins as a temporary relief can start feeling like a trap, bringing guilt, frustration, and emotional distance — both from your partner and yourself. It’s okay to feel stuck; what you’re feeling is valid, and it’s something many men quietly deal with. To heal this, we need to approach it with both kindness and strategy. The first step is understanding what you’re truly craving when you turn to porn — connection, touch, affirmation? Alongside that, gently opening space for emotional communication with your wife can help uncover what’s holding her back from intimacy — sometimes it’s stress, resentment, or even hormonal changes. Try not to approach this as a blame game, but as an invitation to reconnect. And on your end, let’s work on reducing dependency by delaying the urge when it strikes, replacing it with activities that engage your mind or soothe your body. You deserve a relationship that nourishes you — emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

You need to communicate with your wife regarding the same and understand what is the reason for her not interested in sexual intercourse and later discuss on how you both can improve it. Seek support if needed.

Couple counselling is suggested

Would suggest both of you to consult a Relationship Expert to have a better understanding in each other and to overcome this issue..

You’re experiencing a valid emotional and physical concern in your marriage, and it’s understandable that a lack of intimacy can lead to feelings of frustration, loneliness .Try to understand her reasons without judgment — it could be physical, emotional, hormonal, or stress-related.