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At this age, children often develop strong preferences for sweets and may show demanding behaviour when limits are set. This does not necessarily mean something is wrong, but it may indicate a need for consistent boundaries and behaviour guidance. Try to set clear rules about when sweets can be given (for example, only after meals or on specific days) and avoid giving candies when she cries, as this can reinforce the behaviour. Encourage healthy snacks and gently redirect her attention to other activities. If the behaviour continues or becomes difficult to manage, consulting a child psychologist for behaviour management guidance can be helpful.

This is behaviour issue take behaviour therapy she will be fine

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Hi, nothing is “wrong” with her. She is 3. At this age, the brain is driven by impulse, curiosity, and immediate desire. Self-control is still under construction. When she sees candy or someone else’s food, her brain says: “I want that now.” She doesn’t yet have the wiring to pause, regulate, and accept “no.” The crying is not manipulation. It’s frustration without skills. The more emotional the reaction she gets explaining, scolding, negotiating the more the behavior repeats. Not because she’s bad. Because attention reinforces it. Consistency is everything. If sometimes she gets the second candy after crying, her brain learns: cry harder next time. About looking at others’ plates that’s normal comparison curiosity. You can calmly say, “This is yours. That is theirs.” No shame. No drama. If she ignores you, get at eye level, touch gently, make her repeat the instruction. Short sentences. Clear tone. Also check gently: Has there been any recent change? School adjustment, new routine, less one-on-one time, new sibling, stress at home? At this age, behavior shifts often reflect transitions.

Hi, this is a common phenomena for the children of this age. Because they have started gaining interest, cururiosity, autonomy etc according to theories of development. For other queries like crying for not getting candies, asking for candies all the times, ignoring your words need professional intervention. Nothing to worry, just you and your child, both need to improvise the communication style. Also, a thorough check on her seeker or receiver attitude is required. Please reach out to a psychologist and discuss in detail.

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From what you’ve shared, your main concern is your 3.3-year-old daughter’s recent behavioural changes , frequent crying, difficulty accepting “no,” excessive demand for candies, focusing on others’ food, and not listening when spoken to. It would be helpful to understand this in detail through a proper discussion. You can book an appointment with us so we can guide you with the right strategies.

At around 3 years of age, children are still learning how to regulate their emotions and control their impulses. Wanting candies, comparing food with others, and crying when they don’t get what they want can be quite common at this developmental stage. Your daughter’s behavior may not necessarily mean something is “wrong,” but rather that she is testing limits and learning how to express her wants. Children also tend to repeat behaviors that get attention or results, even if it is through crying. The important part is consistency in how adults respond. If sometimes she receives the candy after crying and sometimes she doesn’t, the child may continue the behavior hoping it will work again. At this age, children are also very curious about what others have, which explains why she looks at other children’s plates or tiffins.

Hello, Thankyou for sharing your concern here. You stress as a mother over your daughter's changed behavioural pattern is understandable. Your daughter is in the development stage where negative emotions or disciplinary actions can lead to tantrums such as ignoring, crying and repeating the action. You can observe her further with the triggers. Few things that can help the situation:- - Inculcating a good relationship with food itself by speaking about the benefits of balanced eating. - The concept of the joy of sharing and caring. - Reinforcing new healthy alternatives to the candies. - Encouraging good behaviour by praising her for the things she is doing well. - Disclipine through actions by gradually reducing the candies and introducing good manners relating to eating habits. - Teaming with the Teacher for positive reinforcement. I wish you happy parenting and all the best. You can consult for further professional guidance. Happy Healthy Living!

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