My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and have otherwise known each other for 10 years. While we are attracted to each other, we have never been able to have penetrative sex because I never dilate enough. Have also been experiencing extreme dryness in my vagina for a couple of years now. In fact, I have been very stressed in this relationship from 3 years since my parents are against it. So not sure if that stress is impacting as well. I can see my libido levels having gone down as well. And I just don't want to try. This leads to discords and misunderstandings between us and just adds up to my stress.