Dear human, thank you for sharing and reaching out. Relationships are usually long-lasting and satisfactory only when there is mutual understanding, communication, healthy boundaries and the space to be themselves. From what you've said I can understand that you're struggling to manage the long distance. When you're in a relationship, you need to give your partner a space to spend time with their other aspects of life like career, friends, family, etc. It is very important to communicate to your partner on how you feel about this and she would be able to explain her point of view. You've also mentioned that there are no problems when you meet or when you're together, and thus I guess the issue is the long distance and the short span of time spent together. Seek professional help to identify what exactly is bothering you and to further discuss on your words "value", "importance".

Consult with a counselor .you both need consultation .

Hi. Be friendly as possible in a relationship.  It is not the way to gain prestige or significance by involving in a relation. You can achieve them from your career and education.  See the difference. Give freedom to your partner.  Relation doesn't mean slavery. Don't be so serious . Enjoy your relation . Don't read every behavior as something maladaptive. Few things happen and eventually get resolved as time passes. Don't be so hurried.

Hey, you can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together

Please talk to your partner regarding your concerns and listen to her explanation without being judgmental.