Hi..., It's important to feel relaxed before attempting intercourse. Foreplay leads to sexual excitement relaxes the pelvic muscles, widens the vagina and releases vaginal fluids..... pelvic floor physiotherapist can help in retraining the pelvic floor to relax using special exercise.... If a cause for the painful sexual intercourse has been found, then appropriate treatment would generally help you...Consult your Gynecologist for further advice....