Thank you for asking. I can understand your concern. Not able to feel tightness can be an indication of Erectile dysfunction. Associated factors of anxiety, masturbation habit, pornography use, etc needs to be taken into consideration before making a diagnosis. Low confidence can be secondary to not being able to perform. Considering, I suggest you to consult with a sexologist. A detailed information regarding these is needed.
Next Steps
Kindly consult with a sexologist.
Health Tips
Don't worry it is treatable.