While havibg sex for first time, its best to avoid condom, as it interferes and at times a man loses erection after wearing it.....
You both need to be counseled about proper coital technique
There is no need to insert finger in vagina before penetration.....may be tge fingering is causing her to anticipate pain and that makes para vaginal muscles to go in spasm.
Early morning erections are good. They suggest your sex drive is fine. Make use of this erection to have sex as usually it is more hard than other erection.
I would recommend a women on edge of bed, and man standibg by side of bed position for sex.....
Answered2017-01-11 15:11:51
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