Hi... Lots of parents/childrens are facing similar issues in the Pandemic/Lockdown situation where they are spending most of the time confined to their home and infact confined to their respective rooms/beds/chairs etc.
Your kid is no different and he is facing similar issues of dealing with this change. Childrens express their emotions in terms of tantrums or disobey (as you have put it).
Also, such response patterns are more acquired than innate. Do you and your wife "obey" orders of elders in the family and respect each other's as well? If yes, then your kids are more likely to follow it as a norm, otherwise not.
Do you respect your kids needs, wants, expectations in terms of things, likes/dislikes, warmth/love, self-respect. If yes, he is more likely to respect yours as a natural instinct to reciprocate what he receives.
Every kid/person is unique, so never compare him/her with any other kid/person. Living in the same household, receiving the same parenting/family environment, different kids may acquire completely different personalities, thinking, and behavioural patterns based on the difference of their birth orders, modelling, individual differences, etc.
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